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2016 in review

So what is the best way to dip my toe back into the blogging pool on the first day of a new year? To review the year that just ended of course.

1.What did you do in 2016 that you’d never done before?

Lost 68 kilograms. Yes, you read that right. I lost a whole person and then some.

2.Did you keep your New Years’ resolutions and will you make more for this year? 

I don’t make NY’s resolutions as such. I have chosen ‘a word’ in more recent years, a word to live by for the year. This year I have set a goal and chosen a word. My goal is to write at least the first draft of a novel and the word is ‘heal’.

Actually, I did make a resolution to stay out of hospital in 2016. For the most part, I achieved that goal. I spent a night in the ER but that was it.
3.Did anyone close to you give birth?

Yes, a good friend of mine had a beautiful baby girl who is just the cutest little squish.
4.Did anyone close to you die?

My brother-in-law. Well, he was my brother-in-law at the time. Now he would be my ex-brother-in-law. He was 40 and he dropped dead in his car. The autopsy was inconclusive but he had scarring on his heart and his father had died from a massive heart attack at a young age also.

5.What countries did you visit in 2016?

None other than Australia.
6.What would you like to have in 2017 that you lacked in 2016? 

Self belief. I could get all existential here and list some other angsty things I would like but I’m just not going there.

7.What date from 2016 will remain etched upon your memory, and why? 

September 20th. That’s the day I found out my almost 12 year marriage was over.

8.What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Starting a new job teaching.

9.What was your biggest failure? 

Not seeing what was happening right in front of my eyes.

10.Did you suffer illness or injury? 

Just the usual head stuff.

11.What was the best thing you bought? 

No idea. My new MacBook?

12.Whose behaviour merited celebration? 

My daughter’s. She is such a positive, resilient girl and I adore her.

13.Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed? 

A few people that I didn’t expect to do that to me.

14.Where did most of your money go? 

Paying off debt (and got nowhere)

15.What did you get really, really, really excited about?

New job, new ink and a professional development day about the forensic assessment of  sex offenders.

16.What song will always remind you of 2016?

These Days by Powderfinger. As in “These days turned out nothing like we had planned”.

17.Compared to this time last year, are you: Happier or sadder? Fatter/thinner? Richer/poorer?

Currently sadder. Thinner. Poorer.

18.What do you wish you’d done more of? 


19.What do you wish you’d done less of?

Supporting and trying to be there for someone who didn’t want me to be there for them. Or be anywhere at all for them.

20.How did you spend Christmas?

With my immediate family (kids, Dad, brother, BIL).

21.Did you fall in love in 2016?

No. If anything I fell out of love.

22.How many one-night stands? 

Ha ha ha ha. No.

23.What was your favourite TV program?

On the actual TV it would have been House Hunters. On Netflix it would have been House of Cards. Or Broadchurch. Or Luther. Or The Crown.

24.Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year? 

I don’t expend enough energy on those people to hate them. I just don’t want them in my life.

25.What was the best book you read?

The Good People by Hannah Kent; Evelyn, After by Victoria Helen Stone; Where the Light Falls by Gretchen Shirm; Laurinda by Alice Pung; Wildlight by Robyn Mundy; The Midnight Watch by David Dyer

All of 5 stars from me on Goodreads.

26.What was your greatest musical discovery?

No idea.

27.What did you want and get?

A job.

28.What did you want and not get? 

A successful marriage

29.What was your favourite film of this year?


30.What did you do on your birthday?

Worked.  I can’t remember what else.

31.What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

Less anxiety, less depression, more art, more love.

32.How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2016? 

Smaller. And cute but quirky. As in Peter Pan collars and tops with hedgehog print, dresses with giraffe print.

33.What kept you sane? 

Art. And good friends. Excellent friends. Excellent therapist.

34.Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2016:

Always expect the unexpected. Don’t put all your trust in someone.

35.Quote a song lyric that sums up your year:

This life well it’s slipping right through my hands
These days turned out nothing like I had planned